Does having anther person join in the bedroom hurt a great relationship - even if we both agree to doing it?

My wife and I have done it. We're married 9 years with no harm. Neither of us are jealous people though.

Does having anther person join in the bedroom hurt a great relationship - even if we both agree to doing it?
i defently think it will ruin a relationship you never know what if you partner falls for the other that is involved and leaves you or vise versa
Reply:It might. It's only natural to get jealous, but if you're both comfortable, then what's the harm in it?
Reply:It can.





Some couples are comfortable with swingers or close friend getting that close.





However, every couple I knew who did this either broke up or had major relationship issue's after wards.





Jealousy


Pregnancy


Exposing risk of std's.


Development of "feelings"





Are main things that can cause it to go wrong.





I honestly never seen the point in having another person in a "relationship" that is suppose to be so "great". If it is that great, then why need someone else in the bedroom? I just don't see how someone who has a great relationship would desire another women or man other than their own.





Whatever cranks a person's tractor. Just sometimes, why try to break something when no need to be broken?
Reply:YEAH IT WILL CAUSE PROBLEMS IN THE FUTURE!!! YOU 2 R NOT HAPPY WITH ONE ANOTHER. I THINK BUT THAT IS WHAT I THINK
Reply:yes
Reply:Eventually yes....feelings will change...someone always wants more...everyone always wants more!
Reply:yeah, he or she may think that you were better to the other or all kind of s***t may pop up in the other persons head





not a good idea
Reply:I have had threesomes with my husband 2X during the past few months, it has not harmed our relationships but we already had a strong bond before. I brought home an extra girl to treat him and he gt another man for me. It was very exciting sexually for the both f us but I could see disaster if you were not at ease with the idea. Think about it discuss the pitfalls before you do it
Reply:i would think so. My bestfriend who is a guy told me he had 3sumz with his gurlfriend more then once and now he said he doesn;t love her tha same way he use to. My boyfriend told me too that he would never have a 3sum with me b-cus he wouldnt love me anymore and would just end up leaving me. But idk everyones different.


Then my guy friend told me he told alot of people about the 3 sumz with his chick. and they have been 2gether 4 like 5yearz thats not stopping him from telling everyone! and she doesnt even know everyone knows .lol.oh well shes the one getting laughed at and talked bad about
Reply:If you want problems....that is a guaranteed way to get them!
Reply:yes
Reply:Eventually it will. There could be hurt feelings, and jealously.


And it could hurt the bonds of trust.
Reply:yes
Reply:I have never done it, but unless your swingers or something I would say that later down the road it will.
Reply:no not as long as you are both sure your feelings are strong enough for each other. remember this is just a spice to the relationship. i dont know if id pursue it on a regular basis though. too much can be harmful. do it as a reward to yourselves.
Reply:in the long run it does hurt. no matter how open minded you may be, everyones' insecurities start to show. it's only human. you begin to believe that maybe you can't satisfy your partner or maybe your partner doesn't care for you as much as you thought. maybe one decides that 1 is enough but the other wants to continue and you wonder if they are after one of these other partners. you get a little older and start showing your age and the partners are still the younger ones and you wonder. it will take time but it happens so if you really want a long term relationship, don't do it.
Reply:Yes it can....
Reply:XXXXXXXXXXXX yes, it hurts the relationship. In a long run it ruins a relationship. I would advise against it. XXXXXXXXXXX
Reply:All reports say yes. At least if the relationship is based on something more than sex.