Thursday, May 20, 2010

How do I get my puppy?

Ok. here's the deal. Me and my husband have a tiny maltese puppy, and i want to get him a 'sister' to play with and my husband is telling me no. Im at home more than my husband (who works long hours) and I'm the one who take our dog for walks, give baths, visit the vet, feed him.etc.etc. My husband wont let me get anther dog, and he cant give me a reason why. Is that wrong of him since im the one who will care for it?


So, please help me get my puppy.


What can I tell my husband to convince him??

How do I get my puppy?
Dogs are easier to take care of when there is more than one. I have three, but had only two for about 5 years. We had one for about 10 months and then got another. It was great, we didn't worry as much when we worked late and the dogs are very close. After the 5 years we introduced a puppy into the mix, and I don't know if it's because we haven't had a puppy in so long, but three seems much harder than two, except for the potty training - that was a breeze, and I do believe it's because the other two showed the pup what was expected. It has gotten a little easier in the last month or so with the pup, so I'm hoping that when she settles down more it will become even easier. With two though it's almost like having 1/2 a dog but twice as much to love, because they still need their attention but you can cook, clean or whatever without having the dog always under your feet. This is not manipulation, it's a fact. I also am the one home more, my spouse is a GM in restaurant so I take care of the dogs, and if I can do it with 2 shepherds and a husky - you definitely can with a maltese and one other dog.





PS I was pet sitting for a friend that had a maltese - she was so tiny and they called her Boo - I thought that was so cute.
Reply:just go get another puppy why the heck did you ask hubby anyway if he's never home he will not notice for a week or two anyway. besides dogs mind better than men
Reply:yes it is wrong that he cant give you an answer even though your the one taking care of the dogs..... my opinion is tell him that since you take out,feed,bath,ext to the dogs you deserve to have another baby puppy to take care of and love, if he loves you like i think he does hell let you give it a try.
Reply:Steak and a BJ
Reply:Calmly get down to the bottom of why your husband is saying no.





Getting a 10-18 year commitment without your husband agreeing in my opinion is wrong. Maybe it just isn't the right time for him, maybe something else is bothering him, maybe he feels he wants more of your attention to himself. Dogs become our babies sometimes and maybe he doesn't feel quite as close to Fido as you do and wants you devoting more time to him rather than dog number two.





I suggest slowing down, give it a little time and possibly something else will come up that you guys can negotiate this a bit and both get what you want.





Face it, your marriage is more important. To take on such a big commitment without both agreeing is not a good idea. Timing can be everything. Have patience, men generally give in, don't push so hard.





He is a good man if you married him and will eventually see that it is something you really want and he then will decide it is important to him for you to be happy.





Patience... good luck~
Reply:adopt one for number one. Buying a puppy may result in more vet bills than the cost of the puppy itself.





otherwise...if hes not giving u a reason...that means hes being controling





tell him to shut the **** up....marrage is a partnership not one ruling over the other
Reply:tell him you will quit smoking, make dinner more often, whatever he wants.....ya know what i mean
Reply:dogs are companion animals so they your husband, the dog need a dog friend for companion. or just telling him you went past the pup and couldn't resist it cute little fluffy ball.
Reply:Just tell him, unless he can give a good reason, "I'm getting a puppy, want to help make the selection?" Is he worried about the cost, perhaps? I'd really have to have a reason! (Then again, I'm single--might be a reason?!)
Reply:While i don't neccasarily condone the manipulation of your husband, you can always try what my wife did (and it worked) She brought home a pup from the rescue, told me she was only going to nurse it back to health and then she would find a home for it... well by the time it was well enough to get another home it had become part of the family and even I couldnt bear to be rid of it. (Warning this could back-fire, and he may still insist that you find the dog a home once its healthy/well/old enouigh).
Reply:yea, I say get the puppy , i msure he'll like it once he sees it they're a cute breed
Reply:you could just tell him that taking care of the dog alone is hard. so buying another puppy might be a good idea so that your dog that you have can have a playmate and you could have more time for other things because the dogs are playing. If he says that it's harder to take care of two dogs than one, just tell him the dog also have the right to play with another dog and your dog could get stronger every time he plays with another dog. plus, you could have more time for your other responsibilities as a mother!





and what's better? the more, the merrier!!! lol.


for me, I'm used to take care of dogs. we breed about 9-11 puppies every year. so I rather have many than just one--that's just lame for me.

rodeo buckle

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