How do I overcome my fear of getting hurt and lied by friends and family.?

My life is so messed up right now. I just got out of a terrible relationship with a man and want to move on but I can't seem to get on with my life I think about him every second of every day. I know that can't be healthy. My ex tormented me during the relationship, getting between my relationships . I think my freinds and my family really betrayed me during this break up and I never want to bring anther man around them ever again.

How do I overcome my fear of getting hurt and lied by friends and family.?
Its obvious your insecure,,and your ex used that insecurity against you.. He knew how to play you ,and how to manipulate your feelings..And because they are your family,,you still,,will not reject them,,even though their behavior towards you was not proper or fair..You are too trusting,,and that is not a characteristic good for you to embrace,,especially because of your sensitivity,,and wanting to get along and be accepted by your friends and family..I would tell you to toughen up,,but you can't.. Its not in your nature..That's okay,,because from now on I want you to mentally expect the very worst of things from everyone who is in your circle of associativity..Expect not to be treated well by any and everyone you come in contact with..What that will do for you is make you aware at all times that whatever someone is showering upon you ,,may not be all good..And what will happen if you keep this mental composure,,at worst you will find some peoples with good intentions,,and you will be pleasantly surprised.. But above all ,,you will not be used and abused,,and worst EVER be tormented by anyone again..You are a person who deserves respect and good treatment,,and one day,,someone will come into your life who will fill that place..As far as your family,,we don't choose our family,,but we do choose our life and how we live it!! SOLOMON
Reply:Begin to build guards or shields to help prevent any harmful feelings from arising. Realize that you don't have complete control over everything that happens along with outcomes. Once you come to terms with what life brings it will be easier to accept how things unfold. Make choices that you'll be satisfied with and can fall back on whenever you need to. Work to separate your thoughts from your ex, it's a gradual process. Thinking about how he "tormented" you doesn't help you, doing so only prolongs the feelings attached to those memories.
Reply:The best thing to do is just move on. Instead of thinking about him think about all he did wrong to you which will help you than realize you are BETTER than he is and you can get better. Now with your family idk my family is really immature when i bring girls around them so i just try no limit which family members they see or just not let them meet them its hard but family is constant love is hard to find so you must take it when its there.
Reply:You give it time, you learn to accept, and you make better choices the next time around %26amp; take it slow.





People attract others that are similar to them. So i'm sure it is something about you - ever considered therapy?